We are working horses this morning on the ground. That means that we are not riding. Raballi is a weanling and learning to lead. Karen is walking and Raballi is following when she wants to stop he is not listen.
Karen let me see if I can help you. I want to push on you so you can feel how your roots are working this morning.
OK, Karen says.
I don’t like this pushing stuff. Karen says.
It’s not about liking it Karen it is about having ground. See if you can hold your feet to the ground and handle the pressure from the hand on your chest, your going to be able to have the amount of ground needed to show Raballi who is the leader. Right now he thinks he is.
I can’t! Your being to aggressive…. Do you have to push so hard? She says.
Karen I am not being aggressive but your wanting to be aggressive to deal with the pressure. That is even OK but go down to your feet with that energy.
Don't feed your mind that you want to have a fight of some sort.. That is just your ego and your very week from that point. A horse could not give a wing on a fly about your ego.
You are wanting to be aggressive Gary, Karen says.
Look into my eyes and tell me if I am wanting to be aggressive.
I am here to help you but I can’t help you unless you let me.
OK, I am here Karen says.(this was a beautiful moment of humbling)
That is it Honey! Yes that is it. Now go try that with Raballi.
The horse stops. Yea!
It is all about getting the energy to your feet. What does that mean? From the top of your head where the energy comes in to the heart and then down to the tummy. The next big step is to get through the pelvic floor.
Here lie some of the most powerful muscles in your body and even though energy can go through anything it takes awareness to be able to make it happen. Pass through the floor and your 90% there.
All that is left is to hang out and let the energy go all the way to the feet and into the electrical invisible root system. Your grounded now... It really is easy it might take some practice but it is not hard.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Sunday, November 9, 2008
I vs A part of me
Why 'I' ? Why not 'a part of me?'
Remember the Macro holds the Micro.
Karen said,"I don’t get it. I just don’t understand."
'I' …Karen is where you have to began to change. Moving out of this limiting perspective. Sure you can get it ! Parts of your self don’t get it but they will come along.
All you need is to get one part and then the next part will come together then the next. That is why in our language that we use with our self and others the shift from the words, 'I' to 'a part of me' can make such a difference.
For example: I am not worth anything after telling that lie to my parents. Well that is not true. Sure it was not a good idea to tell a lie but there are lots of parts of you that want to tell the truth. When we say the part of myself that told a lie is not worth anything, then we have other parts of self that can jump in and do some loving on the part of self than needs that support. In someways that is why a team work, works. We experience parts of self working as a whole.
What does 'all the parts of me' mean?
Do you ever feel like your 16 years old?
Today I have a women in my life that I have kissed. It used to be a want. I kept looking for a moment, an excuse to kiss her.
The whole time I was waiting, I felt like I was 16 years old. That is a part of me. I am kind of a slow mover but before she went home I gave her a kiss.
The moment I kissed her I really felt being all of 16. Then 16 year old, then felt 21 year old and then present time man (all the parts of me) came together for that first good night kiss.
Each part of us is just alive as it was when we were that age. Time is an illusion not the experience of being a child. Be all you can be by staying out of 'I' zone when things are not working. It is only a part that is not working... Then there is all that is working. Sometimes even that is hard to see but soon when you move from I to parts of me you will see how big you really are as a human being.
Thanks, Gary
Remember the Macro holds the Micro.
Karen said,"I don’t get it. I just don’t understand."
'I' …Karen is where you have to began to change. Moving out of this limiting perspective. Sure you can get it ! Parts of your self don’t get it but they will come along.
All you need is to get one part and then the next part will come together then the next. That is why in our language that we use with our self and others the shift from the words, 'I' to 'a part of me' can make such a difference.
For example: I am not worth anything after telling that lie to my parents. Well that is not true. Sure it was not a good idea to tell a lie but there are lots of parts of you that want to tell the truth. When we say the part of myself that told a lie is not worth anything, then we have other parts of self that can jump in and do some loving on the part of self than needs that support. In someways that is why a team work, works. We experience parts of self working as a whole.
What does 'all the parts of me' mean?
Do you ever feel like your 16 years old?
Today I have a women in my life that I have kissed. It used to be a want. I kept looking for a moment, an excuse to kiss her.
The whole time I was waiting, I felt like I was 16 years old. That is a part of me. I am kind of a slow mover but before she went home I gave her a kiss.
The moment I kissed her I really felt being all of 16. Then 16 year old, then felt 21 year old and then present time man (all the parts of me) came together for that first good night kiss.
Each part of us is just alive as it was when we were that age. Time is an illusion not the experience of being a child. Be all you can be by staying out of 'I' zone when things are not working. It is only a part that is not working... Then there is all that is working. Sometimes even that is hard to see but soon when you move from I to parts of me you will see how big you really are as a human being.
Thanks, Gary
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Jugement
Judgment
When we hold judgment against another.
We are placing that statement at one level towards ourselves.
Try it out: (name of a friend) just can not get her life together!
Now try this one: I can see how (name of the same friend) is putting her life together.
The difference is noticeable. If you did not feel anything just play with it for a few days. Play with the sentence structure so your not lying to your self. It may need to change to something like, I wonder how I could help this friend of mine put her life together?
Stopping judgment is not for the sake of you being a nice guy, it is for the sake of keeping you free of judging self. It supports you being more then what you think you are.
Gary
When we hold judgment against another.
We are placing that statement at one level towards ourselves.
Try it out: (name of a friend) just can not get her life together!
Now try this one: I can see how (name of the same friend) is putting her life together.
The difference is noticeable. If you did not feel anything just play with it for a few days. Play with the sentence structure so your not lying to your self. It may need to change to something like, I wonder how I could help this friend of mine put her life together?
Stopping judgment is not for the sake of you being a nice guy, it is for the sake of keeping you free of judging self. It supports you being more then what you think you are.
Gary
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Start By Believing
This morning Karen was feeling like Denise was not there for her. She was feeling non-supported. It was funny to watch how she wanted to make her best friend sound like she was no good, not capable and full of it.
I think that Denise drank this weekend. Karen said. I thought she had a drink as well, I said, but Denise told me that she did not drink. So, I am going to believe her.
It is my job to believe her Karen. The same way I will believe in you. There is a feeling that another person gets when they are believed in. It really does not matter if they are believable or not. My job is to create that feeling and then a value for being believable is formed. You have to start somewhere. My Mom told white stories, her version of an OK lie. I grew up with and had to learn how to be honest as a deeper level. The people that believed in me believed in me because they choose to, not because they had reason to. When ever I can at least for a while I choose to believe. The lie will always come out in the end if you just hang in there.
We made a trip to star bucks to get a green tea and a chi latte. While still in the car Karen started to talk about Denise,"she will never get my boyfriend to believe in her and all her great ideas. My dad is not going to believe in her as well. Denise has to prove her self. She told me she would do all this stuff and she did nothing. I new she would never change."
Karen we have to see Denise in the highest light that we can. We have to belief in her like we want people to believe in us. It is the work of Jesus; do on to your brothers like you want done on to you. He was not just talking about sharing apples. It is every aspect of life, emotional, mental and material. Most people think that Jesus wanted us to do these things first for our brothers. He new of the root of consciousness existed within and a way to that root was to act out what is wanted for your own good by given to others. So the act of believing is not so important for Denise it is important for you, Karen. By you acting "Believing" you are creating a life that you and others will believe in you.
Look at it this way there is nobody out there just a mirror reflecting back to you who you are. If you take this point then how you see them is how you will become and more. See Denise as believable, coach her from the side lines, help her get to the truth when ever you can.
What you say about Denise is how you feel about your self. Breaking the pattern starts with you. Increase the love for others and you increase the love for yourself. It really is that simple! You have to do it in order for it to work.
Karen says, I know, I know. That is right you know but what are you doing? The doing is more important then the knowing. Put it into action.
Read this over! Come back and re-read it. Then every time you find your self not loving somebody or not loving yourself 'Start By Believing'; BELIEVE. Read it until it has sunken into the fibers of your being. Act it until it is the only way you know how to respond.
Thank you for reading, Gary
I think that Denise drank this weekend. Karen said. I thought she had a drink as well, I said, but Denise told me that she did not drink. So, I am going to believe her.
It is my job to believe her Karen. The same way I will believe in you. There is a feeling that another person gets when they are believed in. It really does not matter if they are believable or not. My job is to create that feeling and then a value for being believable is formed. You have to start somewhere. My Mom told white stories, her version of an OK lie. I grew up with and had to learn how to be honest as a deeper level. The people that believed in me believed in me because they choose to, not because they had reason to. When ever I can at least for a while I choose to believe. The lie will always come out in the end if you just hang in there.
We made a trip to star bucks to get a green tea and a chi latte. While still in the car Karen started to talk about Denise,"she will never get my boyfriend to believe in her and all her great ideas. My dad is not going to believe in her as well. Denise has to prove her self. She told me she would do all this stuff and she did nothing. I new she would never change."
Karen we have to see Denise in the highest light that we can. We have to belief in her like we want people to believe in us. It is the work of Jesus; do on to your brothers like you want done on to you. He was not just talking about sharing apples. It is every aspect of life, emotional, mental and material. Most people think that Jesus wanted us to do these things first for our brothers. He new of the root of consciousness existed within and a way to that root was to act out what is wanted for your own good by given to others. So the act of believing is not so important for Denise it is important for you, Karen. By you acting "Believing" you are creating a life that you and others will believe in you.
Look at it this way there is nobody out there just a mirror reflecting back to you who you are. If you take this point then how you see them is how you will become and more. See Denise as believable, coach her from the side lines, help her get to the truth when ever you can.
What you say about Denise is how you feel about your self. Breaking the pattern starts with you. Increase the love for others and you increase the love for yourself. It really is that simple! You have to do it in order for it to work.
Karen says, I know, I know. That is right you know but what are you doing? The doing is more important then the knowing. Put it into action.
Read this over! Come back and re-read it. Then every time you find your self not loving somebody or not loving yourself 'Start By Believing'; BELIEVE. Read it until it has sunken into the fibers of your being. Act it until it is the only way you know how to respond.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Teach the Stop
Most rehab centers (not mentioning any names) are focused on removing the addictive substance. This does not give the person the internal tools needed to permanently give up the addiction. There is a better way. There is a way to shift from stopping people to teaching people how to stop.
Notice the key word here is stop ! I did not say addiction, or sex or dysfunction.
I said " Stop"
When you teach a person to stop then there is a whole tool that has been developed. They can apply that to the software labeled Addiction. A activity that has no stop to it. Cowboyyoga is teaching real tools. Like get to your pelvic floor and feel the strength as you move energy through and all the way to the feet. This is a real experience, a tool that you can reuse over and over when you need to stop. You can stop a running horse, a wild cow, and a frightened mind desperately looking for help.
When you do not teach a person when to stop, you have to use agreements ; you are not allowed to do this while you are here or otherwise we will give you a spanking.
Yea right that one works.
How about a big strong staff that walks around with bats and chains and handcuffs. We are watching you ! Ready to put you back in place if you cross the line.
I like the song better. We will, we will Rock you !
Then there are the other drugs used to stop the addiction issue.
Well, to some degree these methods maybe are OK in certain situations. What about a program where at the end of the month you are offered some blow and can have as many lines to snort? This would be allowed in the presence of peers that have been watching and supporting for 30 days plus.
Why not see test the waters... ? When we build water lines we put water in them before we cover them up, Right? I know it sounds ridicules... Want to hear something ridicules, Ann's parents have spent over 450,000.00 dollars on rehab centers and she is still relapsing. Now that is ridicules. Maybe learning to ride a horse would be a step in the right direction.. LOL
There is a reason why they don't do this. I am telling you folks when the 30 days are all over if there are no tool, how can we even expect them to stop. Even with tools it is not an easy path to walk. It is all about the feet, the ground.
Gary
Notice the key word here is stop ! I did not say addiction, or sex or dysfunction.
I said " Stop"
When you teach a person to stop then there is a whole tool that has been developed. They can apply that to the software labeled Addiction. A activity that has no stop to it. Cowboyyoga is teaching real tools. Like get to your pelvic floor and feel the strength as you move energy through and all the way to the feet. This is a real experience, a tool that you can reuse over and over when you need to stop. You can stop a running horse, a wild cow, and a frightened mind desperately looking for help.
When you do not teach a person when to stop, you have to use agreements ; you are not allowed to do this while you are here or otherwise we will give you a spanking.
Yea right that one works.
How about a big strong staff that walks around with bats and chains and handcuffs. We are watching you ! Ready to put you back in place if you cross the line.
I like the song better. We will, we will Rock you !
Then there are the other drugs used to stop the addiction issue.
Well, to some degree these methods maybe are OK in certain situations. What about a program where at the end of the month you are offered some blow and can have as many lines to snort? This would be allowed in the presence of peers that have been watching and supporting for 30 days plus.
Why not see test the waters... ? When we build water lines we put water in them before we cover them up, Right? I know it sounds ridicules... Want to hear something ridicules, Ann's parents have spent over 450,000.00 dollars on rehab centers and she is still relapsing. Now that is ridicules. Maybe learning to ride a horse would be a step in the right direction.. LOL
There is a reason why they don't do this. I am telling you folks when the 30 days are all over if there are no tool, how can we even expect them to stop. Even with tools it is not an easy path to walk. It is all about the feet, the ground.
Gary
Saturday, October 18, 2008
IN YOUR HEAD
In Your Head !
When most people get to the place where they need to stop not necessary do they know how. That is what addiction is! It has nothing to do with what is going on outside of self. They are stuck in their heads spinning. What does this mean?
Thinking is thought from the head and not knowing how to do any more then have more thoughts will get you stuck.
You will never stop a horse when your in your head. Neither will you ever be able to stop the mind from going on and on from the head either. It is just like a horse within us. Most people thing they have to stop a horse by pulling on reins. Not much different then most people think they should be able to stop by thinking!
Stopping has nothing to very little to do with the head. It is all in your seat. It just does not happen in the head. Stop happens in the seat of your wranglers. Now if you don't have some get online and go to www.wrangler and find your nearest retailer. LOL Wranglers are a must to do some serious stopping. Something about a pair of wranglers can help you get a really good Whoa!
You can not stop a horse or any other animal from your head without using physical restraining applications.
When predominantly thinking about your own thoughts and not knowing how to escape them nor do anything but be with thoughts you are going to be stuck in the head. Visualize a truck stuck in the mud that is what it is like to be stuck in the head.
Your sitting there spinning the tires.
Get out of your head and feel what it is like to be at the bottom of your pelvic floor. Just starting to spend time there is a way to shift being stuck. The pelvic floor, the legs and your root system are where the stop happen.
When you can have the same kind of energy in your feet as a baseball player sliding in for a home run you will be able to stop what ever and when ever,including a horse. This is what the horses give us; a test; do we have it or not? If that horse will stop for you without picking up the reins, your root system is working for you.
When most people get to the place where they need to stop not necessary do they know how. That is what addiction is! It has nothing to do with what is going on outside of self. They are stuck in their heads spinning. What does this mean?
Thinking is thought from the head and not knowing how to do any more then have more thoughts will get you stuck.
You will never stop a horse when your in your head. Neither will you ever be able to stop the mind from going on and on from the head either. It is just like a horse within us. Most people thing they have to stop a horse by pulling on reins. Not much different then most people think they should be able to stop by thinking!
Stopping has nothing to very little to do with the head. It is all in your seat. It just does not happen in the head. Stop happens in the seat of your wranglers. Now if you don't have some get online and go to www.wrangler and find your nearest retailer. LOL Wranglers are a must to do some serious stopping. Something about a pair of wranglers can help you get a really good Whoa!
You can not stop a horse or any other animal from your head without using physical restraining applications.
When predominantly thinking about your own thoughts and not knowing how to escape them nor do anything but be with thoughts you are going to be stuck in the head. Visualize a truck stuck in the mud that is what it is like to be stuck in the head.
Your sitting there spinning the tires.
Get out of your head and feel what it is like to be at the bottom of your pelvic floor. Just starting to spend time there is a way to shift being stuck. The pelvic floor, the legs and your root system are where the stop happen.
When you can have the same kind of energy in your feet as a baseball player sliding in for a home run you will be able to stop what ever and when ever,including a horse. This is what the horses give us; a test; do we have it or not? If that horse will stop for you without picking up the reins, your root system is working for you.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Nice Idea
Karen started off by saying she wanted sacredness for her and her partner.
Well you do and you don’t. The idea sounds good to you, I am sure of that. If you go back a week ago, do you remember that you broke up with him? Do you remember what hurtful words you said? I remember hearing you and it was not sacred. You have to get honest with your self as a whole.
There are parts of you Karen that really might want this but you have to also consider the parts that do not know what this is. The parts of you’re self that does not value sacredness. Keep in mind that if you do not validate both aspects of yourself you are not whole. Maybe a better way to express your desire would be “ A part of me does desire to have a sacred relationship with Tom.” Try saying it out loud.
“A part of me wants a scared relationship with Tom.” Karen says.
Now you can look at both parts of self and realize where you have to do your homework.
It is internal work. Tom is just a place where you can work at loving God. It is a place where you can see how or how not you do love your self. How you treat Tom is how your treat your self. Your ability to know that you are a part of God and so is Tom allows you to act in a way that you would act with God. This is where commitment comes in.
You have to have commitment to love in this way for 24hrs or for 30 years. It really does not matter about the time durations; it is that whatever time you set, that you complete your commitment. In this way you learn how to be involved with sacredness, will power, and God. Not choosing to get angry so easily at each other is a way of acting out your value of sacredness.
You have to get to your feet to quiet the tongue. One who can manage the tongue is one who usually can manage many other aspects of their lives. Your feet are so important.. Or maybe they are not,it is their ability to ground you that is really important. With out ground you can not follow through, you can not hold up to you commitments, and foremost it is very hard to grow. It is like your on a gerbil wheel and your just spinning and spinning.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Well you do and you don’t. The idea sounds good to you, I am sure of that. If you go back a week ago, do you remember that you broke up with him? Do you remember what hurtful words you said? I remember hearing you and it was not sacred. You have to get honest with your self as a whole.
There are parts of you Karen that really might want this but you have to also consider the parts that do not know what this is. The parts of you’re self that does not value sacredness. Keep in mind that if you do not validate both aspects of yourself you are not whole. Maybe a better way to express your desire would be “ A part of me does desire to have a sacred relationship with Tom.” Try saying it out loud.
“A part of me wants a scared relationship with Tom.” Karen says.
Now you can look at both parts of self and realize where you have to do your homework.
It is internal work. Tom is just a place where you can work at loving God. It is a place where you can see how or how not you do love your self. How you treat Tom is how your treat your self. Your ability to know that you are a part of God and so is Tom allows you to act in a way that you would act with God. This is where commitment comes in.
You have to have commitment to love in this way for 24hrs or for 30 years. It really does not matter about the time durations; it is that whatever time you set, that you complete your commitment. In this way you learn how to be involved with sacredness, will power, and God. Not choosing to get angry so easily at each other is a way of acting out your value of sacredness.
You have to get to your feet to quiet the tongue. One who can manage the tongue is one who usually can manage many other aspects of their lives. Your feet are so important.. Or maybe they are not,it is their ability to ground you that is really important. With out ground you can not follow through, you can not hold up to you commitments, and foremost it is very hard to grow. It is like your on a gerbil wheel and your just spinning and spinning.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Saturday, September 27, 2008
God, Sacredness and Commitment
Sept 27
Karen, and I sit down this morning and we start talking about how wonderful it is to have somebody. She said that she told Tom about them not having sex when he comes to Austin. He said, that he kind of understood because in AA they talk about not getting involved in a sexual relationship when you’re recovering.
He is on the right path of thinking. The issue is that when you have sex you are creating bonding that is very powerful. Inside that bonding and intimacy comes neediness. That is usually why we see people involved in addictions, they can not get their neediness to stop. It is like a child calling "mama, mama." So when that moment of unsureness comes up in the new sexual partnership also comes the discomfort associated with the question "who is going to take care of me."
“ THE HOW TO RECOVER TOOLS” are little details that keep you from fall back into addiction. Lets review a few of them. The where am I question? This helps you stop and take inventory of your awareness of your body and note where are you in the body. My head?. Check your ground? This will help you know if you are or not. If not get grounded! Of course there are more and more details... These tools reduce the neediness by just simply acknowledging I am needy and I feel the neediness. They also shift the system so it feels safe again.
Once you have these tools, knowing how to take care of the neediness keeps you on your feet. (Maybe the feet are more important then we think.)
Sex is so, powerful. It is powerful due to its sacredness. When two people make love to each other they are joined with their hearts, tummies and at a deep level of family survival. The need to procreate and keep the genetic pool alive is fulfilled when having sex. Also is the interest to create deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Understanding this helps us take care of the body like an instrument so that it does not get used in a way that could create dysfunction (addiction) . Even when we do know this we will want to still have sex. The sex is grounding and that causes relief and comfort but only temporally if the commitment and spiritual aspect are not set in place.
Thank you for reading , Gary
Karen, and I sit down this morning and we start talking about how wonderful it is to have somebody. She said that she told Tom about them not having sex when he comes to Austin. He said, that he kind of understood because in AA they talk about not getting involved in a sexual relationship when you’re recovering.
He is on the right path of thinking. The issue is that when you have sex you are creating bonding that is very powerful. Inside that bonding and intimacy comes neediness. That is usually why we see people involved in addictions, they can not get their neediness to stop. It is like a child calling "mama, mama." So when that moment of unsureness comes up in the new sexual partnership also comes the discomfort associated with the question "who is going to take care of me."
“ THE HOW TO RECOVER TOOLS” are little details that keep you from fall back into addiction. Lets review a few of them. The where am I question? This helps you stop and take inventory of your awareness of your body and note where are you in the body. My head?. Check your ground? This will help you know if you are or not. If not get grounded! Of course there are more and more details... These tools reduce the neediness by just simply acknowledging I am needy and I feel the neediness. They also shift the system so it feels safe again.
Once you have these tools, knowing how to take care of the neediness keeps you on your feet. (Maybe the feet are more important then we think.)
Sex is so, powerful. It is powerful due to its sacredness. When two people make love to each other they are joined with their hearts, tummies and at a deep level of family survival. The need to procreate and keep the genetic pool alive is fulfilled when having sex. Also is the interest to create deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Understanding this helps us take care of the body like an instrument so that it does not get used in a way that could create dysfunction (addiction) . Even when we do know this we will want to still have sex. The sex is grounding and that causes relief and comfort but only temporally if the commitment and spiritual aspect are not set in place.
Thank you for reading , Gary
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Shelly Sue and her feet
One day I had this really strong corp. woman come to visit. She wanted to know what was CowboyYoga and could it help her. She was struggling with her team as a leader. After hearing her story it was clear to me that she felt out of control. She went to her power and became aggressive. Her team then felt like they could not trust her. She did not know what to do to regain their trust.
It had been 18 years without a drink. These team pressures made her think about drinking. She had figured how not to touch any kind of drugs. The drugs were out of her life but the same intense feeling inside the heart,and tummy had never left. That unsettled feeling was in engaged. This functioning part of the system which is creating dysfunctional results needs attention . Did you catch that? An part of the software system that is in working mode. We first have to accept what is the system as is…. Study the little details in relationship to the 7 energy centers. Take inventory of what each of those system are doing and not doing.
How can she change?
The old system ran without any or very little grounding. Her system was not bringing the energy through the legs and into the feet. When ever there was a need for more energy (like leading a team) the system also needed more ground. This has to be put in place.
How?
1) Role modeling that creates a supportive experiences.
2) Inner awareness of the system (very similar to inner child work but different)
3) Experience the new information working in relationships (causes cellular memory)
I started off by telling her it was all about her feet. She laughed loud. Then 10 hrs latter she said to me, Whoa I never had any idea that my feet were so important. She now runs her own team with little value for aggressiveness. It’s all about “Whoa”
Thank you for reading the post and please pass it on to all that could use some insight.
Come to farm and experience CowboyYoga! Gary Prince/ The CowboyYoga Guy
Saturday, September 6, 2008
intro: Whoa is important
It was Anne’s 1st day @ work. She had never had a job in 33 years. Now she was home from work.
I came into the house to get some carrots for the horses and at the front steps Anne greets me saying that she is leaving.
I ask where are you going?
Back Home! she says after talking to her Dad, he said I could come home. Oh really, I say and she only nodded her head.
I said, Anne when are you going to become a women? When are you going to grow up and do what you say your going to do? You made a commitment to stay for 14 days and you’re not even at the 4th day.
I can’t sleep and I need a good shower with warm water Anne says.
Bull shit, you’re full of it. What you need is to ability to manage your mind when you’re uncomfortable. You have no idea how to do that do you? read complete story
I came into the house to get some carrots for the horses and at the front steps Anne greets me saying that she is leaving.
I ask where are you going?
Back Home! she says after talking to her Dad, he said I could come home. Oh really, I say and she only nodded her head.
I said, Anne when are you going to become a women? When are you going to grow up and do what you say your going to do? You made a commitment to stay for 14 days and you’re not even at the 4th day.
I can’t sleep and I need a good shower with warm water Anne says.
Bull shit, you’re full of it. What you need is to ability to manage your mind when you’re uncomfortable. You have no idea how to do that do you? read complete story
Whoa is important
It was Anne’s 1st day @ work. She had never had a job in 33 years. Now she was home from work.
I came into the house to get some carrots for the horses and at the front steps Anne greets me saying that she is leaving.
I ask where are you going?
Back Home! she says after talking to her Dad, he said I could come home. Oh really, I say and she only nodded her head.
I said, Anne when are you going to become a women? When are you going to grow up and do what you say your going to do? You made a commitment to stay for 14 days and you’re not even at the 4th day.
I can’t sleep and I need a good shower with warm water Anne says.
Bull shit, you’re full of it. What you need is to ability to manage your mind when you’re uncomfortable. You have no idea how to do that do you?
I am leaving Gary and I still want to work with you if you will have me. Anne says
This is not a team, Anne. You’re on your own making this choice. You’re not asking what I feel or think. It’s what Anne wants, Anne, Anne and Anne. You are self-centered and have no idea about being a part of a team. If you were willing to be a team I would be more willing to think about working with you. I am not sure at this point if there is anything to teach you until self-centeredness is not your only means of operation.
She left, not cleaning her space, not caring about the throw up and the piss that reeked from her messing all over her girlfriends car and the room and bed she stayed in. It was three rough days that we had been all about baby-sitting Annie. We had two goals for her to get up on Monday morning and make it to her first day of work and keep her job and her commitment to staying at the farm for 14 days. Up until this morning she was not functional. Now she was in her car driving off.
At the beginning of Anne coming to the farm we had a talk with her parents and they said they had no money to spend on her treatment. Mind you they both had spent over half a million on her already in treatment centers five of them. They said they were tired of dealing with her choices and spending money to help her get out of trouble. In fact her Father wished that she would be caught drinking and driving and thrown into prison. He thought maybe this would wake her up. I asked them to make a commitment to me that Anne could not go home and they would not help her out with money without coming through me. They both agreed to this but did not hold up to it. They had no ground and either did Anne
How can parents expect their children to hold up their end if they will not hold up their side as parents? This not so little girl was still very little and had no idea about responsibility. So where do you start to teach responsibility? Well getting a job and having some responsibilities is a beginning. Think about it though if you never had responsibilities and you did not want to have them how now after 33 years was she going to be able to pull off being successful with any responsibilities?
Inside of us we need to be able to recognize how to push down our feet and make things happen. We have to use our root system that is under the feet to feel planted enough to follow through. You also have to understand how to energize the root system and keep your self-planted until completion point. We are talking about something that you can not see but is for real. I am not being metaphoric; it is a push down and get rooted like a baseball player sliding into home base.
We also have to learn and help others learn what is it like to find energy to follow through. Is it in the head? No it is not. It is in the heart and that is easy to say but when your stuck and used to doing only what you want to do it can be a hard thing to figure out. Especially if no one has ever taught you were stood next to you helping out. Energy that does not have to do with the self-centered aspect is tapped into due to the awareness of choice and will power. It can be cultivated around the breast area and arms. We can use the breath to support the movement of the heart but the energy comes from the heart space. Most of the time self-centered people only have energy for what makes them feel emotionally excited.
These details are taught while riding a horse. The details again are rooting (grounding), energizing, and use of will power and awareness. Each component happens in four different places in the body. Who would of ever thought? Well, in some ways you have to be able to think but it is all about a feel not a thought. Awareness does start from the head and then moves elsewhere then the head. A friend of my Sylvester Becker is a life coach, and he described CowboyYoga like mortar to the blocks; it is what makes them stick together. Without feeling and awareness it is very hard to engage a new system. It’s hard to change an old operational system. In this case, Anne has been using this system for 30 plus years.
Ground is ground, and your roots, which you cannot see, have to get into the ground for them to work! Now if you’re rolling your eyes or LOL just hold on a min. It is not funny? This is a real thing. You might have been lucky to have worked hard enough in your life that made you had to keep your feet planted. The end result was a job completed. You might have a Grandma that just did not put up with any Bull Shit! If so she role modeled for you what it was to be grounded. But in the case of an addict most of them do not know how to choose there feet naturally and when they get scared guess what? They run to their drug of choice. They’re uncomfortable.
It is not hard to feel your roots even though you cannot see them they are easy to feel. It is even easier to feel the difference between when you do and when you do not have them. Another place that I use the horses. They will tell you if you’re grounded or not.
There is the root of a person’s ability to stop. Stopping is a universal thing. If you do not know how to stop a horse you cannot stop your self from any kind of addition. If you can not stop yourself from saying negative words when you’re angry you will not be able to stop an addition. You might be able to change addictions, but that is way different then stopping the active addictive personality. I see it in lots of AA groups there all sitting around drinking coffee and smoking; two of the worse things you can do if your an addict.
As parents if you cannot stop your child from doing something not so good, them how are you going to stop a horse? Believe me it is not about being able to stop a horse that is so important. It is about seeing, feeling, hearing, and then intellectually connecting all the new information together. That first piece of information is about how powerless you are using the system that is in place at the moment.
Most of the time I am not teaching anything new. I teach information and details that helps people choose to use tools that they might not be using. One of these most common tools is grounding.
If you cannot teach your child, (dog, horse, staff) “Whoa” then most likely you can’t teach your self “Whoa!”.
Whoa! Is so big and so important. Who would of ever thought that such a simple almost only country word would be so important? Well, it is not the word that is important; it is what is behind the true energy of the meaning of the word that is important. It is like the Marlboro Man, that image was real. This was not some guy that came out of the city and we taught him how to ride in a few days and took a shoot. No this was a real person that had roots with depth to them.
I came into the house to get some carrots for the horses and at the front steps Anne greets me saying that she is leaving.
I ask where are you going?
Back Home! she says after talking to her Dad, he said I could come home. Oh really, I say and she only nodded her head.
I said, Anne when are you going to become a women? When are you going to grow up and do what you say your going to do? You made a commitment to stay for 14 days and you’re not even at the 4th day.
I can’t sleep and I need a good shower with warm water Anne says.
Bull shit, you’re full of it. What you need is to ability to manage your mind when you’re uncomfortable. You have no idea how to do that do you?
I am leaving Gary and I still want to work with you if you will have me. Anne says
This is not a team, Anne. You’re on your own making this choice. You’re not asking what I feel or think. It’s what Anne wants, Anne, Anne and Anne. You are self-centered and have no idea about being a part of a team. If you were willing to be a team I would be more willing to think about working with you. I am not sure at this point if there is anything to teach you until self-centeredness is not your only means of operation.
She left, not cleaning her space, not caring about the throw up and the piss that reeked from her messing all over her girlfriends car and the room and bed she stayed in. It was three rough days that we had been all about baby-sitting Annie. We had two goals for her to get up on Monday morning and make it to her first day of work and keep her job and her commitment to staying at the farm for 14 days. Up until this morning she was not functional. Now she was in her car driving off.
At the beginning of Anne coming to the farm we had a talk with her parents and they said they had no money to spend on her treatment. Mind you they both had spent over half a million on her already in treatment centers five of them. They said they were tired of dealing with her choices and spending money to help her get out of trouble. In fact her Father wished that she would be caught drinking and driving and thrown into prison. He thought maybe this would wake her up. I asked them to make a commitment to me that Anne could not go home and they would not help her out with money without coming through me. They both agreed to this but did not hold up to it. They had no ground and either did Anne
How can parents expect their children to hold up their end if they will not hold up their side as parents? This not so little girl was still very little and had no idea about responsibility. So where do you start to teach responsibility? Well getting a job and having some responsibilities is a beginning. Think about it though if you never had responsibilities and you did not want to have them how now after 33 years was she going to be able to pull off being successful with any responsibilities?
Inside of us we need to be able to recognize how to push down our feet and make things happen. We have to use our root system that is under the feet to feel planted enough to follow through. You also have to understand how to energize the root system and keep your self-planted until completion point. We are talking about something that you can not see but is for real. I am not being metaphoric; it is a push down and get rooted like a baseball player sliding into home base.
We also have to learn and help others learn what is it like to find energy to follow through. Is it in the head? No it is not. It is in the heart and that is easy to say but when your stuck and used to doing only what you want to do it can be a hard thing to figure out. Especially if no one has ever taught you were stood next to you helping out. Energy that does not have to do with the self-centered aspect is tapped into due to the awareness of choice and will power. It can be cultivated around the breast area and arms. We can use the breath to support the movement of the heart but the energy comes from the heart space. Most of the time self-centered people only have energy for what makes them feel emotionally excited.
These details are taught while riding a horse. The details again are rooting (grounding), energizing, and use of will power and awareness. Each component happens in four different places in the body. Who would of ever thought? Well, in some ways you have to be able to think but it is all about a feel not a thought. Awareness does start from the head and then moves elsewhere then the head. A friend of my Sylvester Becker is a life coach, and he described CowboyYoga like mortar to the blocks; it is what makes them stick together. Without feeling and awareness it is very hard to engage a new system. It’s hard to change an old operational system. In this case, Anne has been using this system for 30 plus years.
Ground is ground, and your roots, which you cannot see, have to get into the ground for them to work! Now if you’re rolling your eyes or LOL just hold on a min. It is not funny? This is a real thing. You might have been lucky to have worked hard enough in your life that made you had to keep your feet planted. The end result was a job completed. You might have a Grandma that just did not put up with any Bull Shit! If so she role modeled for you what it was to be grounded. But in the case of an addict most of them do not know how to choose there feet naturally and when they get scared guess what? They run to their drug of choice. They’re uncomfortable.
It is not hard to feel your roots even though you cannot see them they are easy to feel. It is even easier to feel the difference between when you do and when you do not have them. Another place that I use the horses. They will tell you if you’re grounded or not.
There is the root of a person’s ability to stop. Stopping is a universal thing. If you do not know how to stop a horse you cannot stop your self from any kind of addition. If you can not stop yourself from saying negative words when you’re angry you will not be able to stop an addition. You might be able to change addictions, but that is way different then stopping the active addictive personality. I see it in lots of AA groups there all sitting around drinking coffee and smoking; two of the worse things you can do if your an addict.
As parents if you cannot stop your child from doing something not so good, them how are you going to stop a horse? Believe me it is not about being able to stop a horse that is so important. It is about seeing, feeling, hearing, and then intellectually connecting all the new information together. That first piece of information is about how powerless you are using the system that is in place at the moment.
Most of the time I am not teaching anything new. I teach information and details that helps people choose to use tools that they might not be using. One of these most common tools is grounding.
If you cannot teach your child, (dog, horse, staff) “Whoa” then most likely you can’t teach your self “Whoa!”.
Whoa! Is so big and so important. Who would of ever thought that such a simple almost only country word would be so important? Well, it is not the word that is important; it is what is behind the true energy of the meaning of the word that is important. It is like the Marlboro Man, that image was real. This was not some guy that came out of the city and we taught him how to ride in a few days and took a shoot. No this was a real person that had roots with depth to them.
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