This morning Karen was feeling like Denise was not there for her. She was feeling non-supported. It was funny to watch how she wanted to make her best friend sound like she was no good, not capable and full of it.
I think that Denise drank this weekend. Karen said. I thought she had a drink as well, I said, but Denise told me that she did not drink. So, I am going to believe her.
It is my job to believe her Karen. The same way I will believe in you. There is a feeling that another person gets when they are believed in. It really does not matter if they are believable or not. My job is to create that feeling and then a value for being believable is formed. You have to start somewhere. My Mom told white stories, her version of an OK lie. I grew up with and had to learn how to be honest as a deeper level. The people that believed in me believed in me because they choose to, not because they had reason to. When ever I can at least for a while I choose to believe. The lie will always come out in the end if you just hang in there.
We made a trip to star bucks to get a green tea and a chi latte. While still in the car Karen started to talk about Denise,"she will never get my boyfriend to believe in her and all her great ideas. My dad is not going to believe in her as well. Denise has to prove her self. She told me she would do all this stuff and she did nothing. I new she would never change."
Karen we have to see Denise in the highest light that we can. We have to belief in her like we want people to believe in us. It is the work of Jesus; do on to your brothers like you want done on to you. He was not just talking about sharing apples. It is every aspect of life, emotional, mental and material. Most people think that Jesus wanted us to do these things first for our brothers. He new of the root of consciousness existed within and a way to that root was to act out what is wanted for your own good by given to others. So the act of believing is not so important for Denise it is important for you, Karen. By you acting "Believing" you are creating a life that you and others will believe in you.
Look at it this way there is nobody out there just a mirror reflecting back to you who you are. If you take this point then how you see them is how you will become and more. See Denise as believable, coach her from the side lines, help her get to the truth when ever you can.
What you say about Denise is how you feel about your self. Breaking the pattern starts with you. Increase the love for others and you increase the love for yourself. It really is that simple! You have to do it in order for it to work.
Karen says, I know, I know. That is right you know but what are you doing? The doing is more important then the knowing. Put it into action.
Read this over! Come back and re-read it. Then every time you find your self not loving somebody or not loving yourself 'Start By Believing'; BELIEVE. Read it until it has sunken into the fibers of your being. Act it until it is the only way you know how to respond.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Teach the Stop
Most rehab centers (not mentioning any names) are focused on removing the addictive substance. This does not give the person the internal tools needed to permanently give up the addiction. There is a better way. There is a way to shift from stopping people to teaching people how to stop.
Notice the key word here is stop ! I did not say addiction, or sex or dysfunction.
I said " Stop"
When you teach a person to stop then there is a whole tool that has been developed. They can apply that to the software labeled Addiction. A activity that has no stop to it. Cowboyyoga is teaching real tools. Like get to your pelvic floor and feel the strength as you move energy through and all the way to the feet. This is a real experience, a tool that you can reuse over and over when you need to stop. You can stop a running horse, a wild cow, and a frightened mind desperately looking for help.
When you do not teach a person when to stop, you have to use agreements ; you are not allowed to do this while you are here or otherwise we will give you a spanking.
Yea right that one works.
How about a big strong staff that walks around with bats and chains and handcuffs. We are watching you ! Ready to put you back in place if you cross the line.
I like the song better. We will, we will Rock you !
Then there are the other drugs used to stop the addiction issue.
Well, to some degree these methods maybe are OK in certain situations. What about a program where at the end of the month you are offered some blow and can have as many lines to snort? This would be allowed in the presence of peers that have been watching and supporting for 30 days plus.
Why not see test the waters... ? When we build water lines we put water in them before we cover them up, Right? I know it sounds ridicules... Want to hear something ridicules, Ann's parents have spent over 450,000.00 dollars on rehab centers and she is still relapsing. Now that is ridicules. Maybe learning to ride a horse would be a step in the right direction.. LOL
There is a reason why they don't do this. I am telling you folks when the 30 days are all over if there are no tool, how can we even expect them to stop. Even with tools it is not an easy path to walk. It is all about the feet, the ground.
Gary
Notice the key word here is stop ! I did not say addiction, or sex or dysfunction.
I said " Stop"
When you teach a person to stop then there is a whole tool that has been developed. They can apply that to the software labeled Addiction. A activity that has no stop to it. Cowboyyoga is teaching real tools. Like get to your pelvic floor and feel the strength as you move energy through and all the way to the feet. This is a real experience, a tool that you can reuse over and over when you need to stop. You can stop a running horse, a wild cow, and a frightened mind desperately looking for help.
When you do not teach a person when to stop, you have to use agreements ; you are not allowed to do this while you are here or otherwise we will give you a spanking.
Yea right that one works.
How about a big strong staff that walks around with bats and chains and handcuffs. We are watching you ! Ready to put you back in place if you cross the line.
I like the song better. We will, we will Rock you !
Then there are the other drugs used to stop the addiction issue.
Well, to some degree these methods maybe are OK in certain situations. What about a program where at the end of the month you are offered some blow and can have as many lines to snort? This would be allowed in the presence of peers that have been watching and supporting for 30 days plus.
Why not see test the waters... ? When we build water lines we put water in them before we cover them up, Right? I know it sounds ridicules... Want to hear something ridicules, Ann's parents have spent over 450,000.00 dollars on rehab centers and she is still relapsing. Now that is ridicules. Maybe learning to ride a horse would be a step in the right direction.. LOL
There is a reason why they don't do this. I am telling you folks when the 30 days are all over if there are no tool, how can we even expect them to stop. Even with tools it is not an easy path to walk. It is all about the feet, the ground.
Gary
Saturday, October 18, 2008
IN YOUR HEAD
In Your Head !
When most people get to the place where they need to stop not necessary do they know how. That is what addiction is! It has nothing to do with what is going on outside of self. They are stuck in their heads spinning. What does this mean?
Thinking is thought from the head and not knowing how to do any more then have more thoughts will get you stuck.
You will never stop a horse when your in your head. Neither will you ever be able to stop the mind from going on and on from the head either. It is just like a horse within us. Most people thing they have to stop a horse by pulling on reins. Not much different then most people think they should be able to stop by thinking!
Stopping has nothing to very little to do with the head. It is all in your seat. It just does not happen in the head. Stop happens in the seat of your wranglers. Now if you don't have some get online and go to www.wrangler and find your nearest retailer. LOL Wranglers are a must to do some serious stopping. Something about a pair of wranglers can help you get a really good Whoa!
You can not stop a horse or any other animal from your head without using physical restraining applications.
When predominantly thinking about your own thoughts and not knowing how to escape them nor do anything but be with thoughts you are going to be stuck in the head. Visualize a truck stuck in the mud that is what it is like to be stuck in the head.
Your sitting there spinning the tires.
Get out of your head and feel what it is like to be at the bottom of your pelvic floor. Just starting to spend time there is a way to shift being stuck. The pelvic floor, the legs and your root system are where the stop happen.
When you can have the same kind of energy in your feet as a baseball player sliding in for a home run you will be able to stop what ever and when ever,including a horse. This is what the horses give us; a test; do we have it or not? If that horse will stop for you without picking up the reins, your root system is working for you.
When most people get to the place where they need to stop not necessary do they know how. That is what addiction is! It has nothing to do with what is going on outside of self. They are stuck in their heads spinning. What does this mean?
Thinking is thought from the head and not knowing how to do any more then have more thoughts will get you stuck.
You will never stop a horse when your in your head. Neither will you ever be able to stop the mind from going on and on from the head either. It is just like a horse within us. Most people thing they have to stop a horse by pulling on reins. Not much different then most people think they should be able to stop by thinking!
Stopping has nothing to very little to do with the head. It is all in your seat. It just does not happen in the head. Stop happens in the seat of your wranglers. Now if you don't have some get online and go to www.wrangler and find your nearest retailer. LOL Wranglers are a must to do some serious stopping. Something about a pair of wranglers can help you get a really good Whoa!
You can not stop a horse or any other animal from your head without using physical restraining applications.
When predominantly thinking about your own thoughts and not knowing how to escape them nor do anything but be with thoughts you are going to be stuck in the head. Visualize a truck stuck in the mud that is what it is like to be stuck in the head.
Your sitting there spinning the tires.
Get out of your head and feel what it is like to be at the bottom of your pelvic floor. Just starting to spend time there is a way to shift being stuck. The pelvic floor, the legs and your root system are where the stop happen.
When you can have the same kind of energy in your feet as a baseball player sliding in for a home run you will be able to stop what ever and when ever,including a horse. This is what the horses give us; a test; do we have it or not? If that horse will stop for you without picking up the reins, your root system is working for you.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Nice Idea
Karen started off by saying she wanted sacredness for her and her partner.
Well you do and you don’t. The idea sounds good to you, I am sure of that. If you go back a week ago, do you remember that you broke up with him? Do you remember what hurtful words you said? I remember hearing you and it was not sacred. You have to get honest with your self as a whole.
There are parts of you Karen that really might want this but you have to also consider the parts that do not know what this is. The parts of you’re self that does not value sacredness. Keep in mind that if you do not validate both aspects of yourself you are not whole. Maybe a better way to express your desire would be “ A part of me does desire to have a sacred relationship with Tom.” Try saying it out loud.
“A part of me wants a scared relationship with Tom.” Karen says.
Now you can look at both parts of self and realize where you have to do your homework.
It is internal work. Tom is just a place where you can work at loving God. It is a place where you can see how or how not you do love your self. How you treat Tom is how your treat your self. Your ability to know that you are a part of God and so is Tom allows you to act in a way that you would act with God. This is where commitment comes in.
You have to have commitment to love in this way for 24hrs or for 30 years. It really does not matter about the time durations; it is that whatever time you set, that you complete your commitment. In this way you learn how to be involved with sacredness, will power, and God. Not choosing to get angry so easily at each other is a way of acting out your value of sacredness.
You have to get to your feet to quiet the tongue. One who can manage the tongue is one who usually can manage many other aspects of their lives. Your feet are so important.. Or maybe they are not,it is their ability to ground you that is really important. With out ground you can not follow through, you can not hold up to you commitments, and foremost it is very hard to grow. It is like your on a gerbil wheel and your just spinning and spinning.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Well you do and you don’t. The idea sounds good to you, I am sure of that. If you go back a week ago, do you remember that you broke up with him? Do you remember what hurtful words you said? I remember hearing you and it was not sacred. You have to get honest with your self as a whole.
There are parts of you Karen that really might want this but you have to also consider the parts that do not know what this is. The parts of you’re self that does not value sacredness. Keep in mind that if you do not validate both aspects of yourself you are not whole. Maybe a better way to express your desire would be “ A part of me does desire to have a sacred relationship with Tom.” Try saying it out loud.
“A part of me wants a scared relationship with Tom.” Karen says.
Now you can look at both parts of self and realize where you have to do your homework.
It is internal work. Tom is just a place where you can work at loving God. It is a place where you can see how or how not you do love your self. How you treat Tom is how your treat your self. Your ability to know that you are a part of God and so is Tom allows you to act in a way that you would act with God. This is where commitment comes in.
You have to have commitment to love in this way for 24hrs or for 30 years. It really does not matter about the time durations; it is that whatever time you set, that you complete your commitment. In this way you learn how to be involved with sacredness, will power, and God. Not choosing to get angry so easily at each other is a way of acting out your value of sacredness.
You have to get to your feet to quiet the tongue. One who can manage the tongue is one who usually can manage many other aspects of their lives. Your feet are so important.. Or maybe they are not,it is their ability to ground you that is really important. With out ground you can not follow through, you can not hold up to you commitments, and foremost it is very hard to grow. It is like your on a gerbil wheel and your just spinning and spinning.
Thank you for reading, Gary
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