We are working horses this morning on the ground. That means that we are not riding. Raballi is a weanling and learning to lead. Karen is walking and Raballi is following when she wants to stop he is not listen.
Karen let me see if I can help you. I want to push on you so you can feel how your roots are working this morning.
OK, Karen says.
I don’t like this pushing stuff. Karen says.
It’s not about liking it Karen it is about having ground. See if you can hold your feet to the ground and handle the pressure from the hand on your chest, your going to be able to have the amount of ground needed to show Raballi who is the leader. Right now he thinks he is.
I can’t! Your being to aggressive…. Do you have to push so hard? She says.
Karen I am not being aggressive but your wanting to be aggressive to deal with the pressure. That is even OK but go down to your feet with that energy.
Don't feed your mind that you want to have a fight of some sort.. That is just your ego and your very week from that point. A horse could not give a wing on a fly about your ego.
You are wanting to be aggressive Gary, Karen says.
Look into my eyes and tell me if I am wanting to be aggressive.
I am here to help you but I can’t help you unless you let me.
OK, I am here Karen says.(this was a beautiful moment of humbling)
That is it Honey! Yes that is it. Now go try that with Raballi.
The horse stops. Yea!
It is all about getting the energy to your feet. What does that mean? From the top of your head where the energy comes in to the heart and then down to the tummy. The next big step is to get through the pelvic floor.
Here lie some of the most powerful muscles in your body and even though energy can go through anything it takes awareness to be able to make it happen. Pass through the floor and your 90% there.
All that is left is to hang out and let the energy go all the way to the feet and into the electrical invisible root system. Your grounded now... It really is easy it might take some practice but it is not hard.
Thank you for reading, Gary
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Saturday, September 27, 2008
God, Sacredness and Commitment
Sept 27
Karen, and I sit down this morning and we start talking about how wonderful it is to have somebody. She said that she told Tom about them not having sex when he comes to Austin. He said, that he kind of understood because in AA they talk about not getting involved in a sexual relationship when you’re recovering.
He is on the right path of thinking. The issue is that when you have sex you are creating bonding that is very powerful. Inside that bonding and intimacy comes neediness. That is usually why we see people involved in addictions, they can not get their neediness to stop. It is like a child calling "mama, mama." So when that moment of unsureness comes up in the new sexual partnership also comes the discomfort associated with the question "who is going to take care of me."
“ THE HOW TO RECOVER TOOLS” are little details that keep you from fall back into addiction. Lets review a few of them. The where am I question? This helps you stop and take inventory of your awareness of your body and note where are you in the body. My head?. Check your ground? This will help you know if you are or not. If not get grounded! Of course there are more and more details... These tools reduce the neediness by just simply acknowledging I am needy and I feel the neediness. They also shift the system so it feels safe again.
Once you have these tools, knowing how to take care of the neediness keeps you on your feet. (Maybe the feet are more important then we think.)
Sex is so, powerful. It is powerful due to its sacredness. When two people make love to each other they are joined with their hearts, tummies and at a deep level of family survival. The need to procreate and keep the genetic pool alive is fulfilled when having sex. Also is the interest to create deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Understanding this helps us take care of the body like an instrument so that it does not get used in a way that could create dysfunction (addiction) . Even when we do know this we will want to still have sex. The sex is grounding and that causes relief and comfort but only temporally if the commitment and spiritual aspect are not set in place.
Thank you for reading , Gary
Karen, and I sit down this morning and we start talking about how wonderful it is to have somebody. She said that she told Tom about them not having sex when he comes to Austin. He said, that he kind of understood because in AA they talk about not getting involved in a sexual relationship when you’re recovering.
He is on the right path of thinking. The issue is that when you have sex you are creating bonding that is very powerful. Inside that bonding and intimacy comes neediness. That is usually why we see people involved in addictions, they can not get their neediness to stop. It is like a child calling "mama, mama." So when that moment of unsureness comes up in the new sexual partnership also comes the discomfort associated with the question "who is going to take care of me."
“ THE HOW TO RECOVER TOOLS” are little details that keep you from fall back into addiction. Lets review a few of them. The where am I question? This helps you stop and take inventory of your awareness of your body and note where are you in the body. My head?. Check your ground? This will help you know if you are or not. If not get grounded! Of course there are more and more details... These tools reduce the neediness by just simply acknowledging I am needy and I feel the neediness. They also shift the system so it feels safe again.
Once you have these tools, knowing how to take care of the neediness keeps you on your feet. (Maybe the feet are more important then we think.)
Sex is so, powerful. It is powerful due to its sacredness. When two people make love to each other they are joined with their hearts, tummies and at a deep level of family survival. The need to procreate and keep the genetic pool alive is fulfilled when having sex. Also is the interest to create deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Understanding this helps us take care of the body like an instrument so that it does not get used in a way that could create dysfunction (addiction) . Even when we do know this we will want to still have sex. The sex is grounding and that causes relief and comfort but only temporally if the commitment and spiritual aspect are not set in place.
Thank you for reading , Gary
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