We are working horses this morning on the ground. That means that we are not riding. Raballi is a weanling and learning to lead. Karen is walking and Raballi is following when she wants to stop he is not listen.
Karen let me see if I can help you. I want to push on you so you can feel how your roots are working this morning.
OK, Karen says.
I don’t like this pushing stuff. Karen says.
It’s not about liking it Karen it is about having ground. See if you can hold your feet to the ground and handle the pressure from the hand on your chest, your going to be able to have the amount of ground needed to show Raballi who is the leader. Right now he thinks he is.
I can’t! Your being to aggressive…. Do you have to push so hard? She says.
Karen I am not being aggressive but your wanting to be aggressive to deal with the pressure. That is even OK but go down to your feet with that energy.
Don't feed your mind that you want to have a fight of some sort.. That is just your ego and your very week from that point. A horse could not give a wing on a fly about your ego.
You are wanting to be aggressive Gary, Karen says.
Look into my eyes and tell me if I am wanting to be aggressive.
I am here to help you but I can’t help you unless you let me.
OK, I am here Karen says.(this was a beautiful moment of humbling)
That is it Honey! Yes that is it. Now go try that with Raballi.
The horse stops. Yea!
It is all about getting the energy to your feet. What does that mean? From the top of your head where the energy comes in to the heart and then down to the tummy. The next big step is to get through the pelvic floor.
Here lie some of the most powerful muscles in your body and even though energy can go through anything it takes awareness to be able to make it happen. Pass through the floor and your 90% there.
All that is left is to hang out and let the energy go all the way to the feet and into the electrical invisible root system. Your grounded now... It really is easy it might take some practice but it is not hard.
Thank you for reading, Gary
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Thursday, November 20, 2008
Sunday, November 9, 2008
I vs A part of me
Why 'I' ? Why not 'a part of me?'
Remember the Macro holds the Micro.
Karen said,"I don’t get it. I just don’t understand."
'I' …Karen is where you have to began to change. Moving out of this limiting perspective. Sure you can get it ! Parts of your self don’t get it but they will come along.
All you need is to get one part and then the next part will come together then the next. That is why in our language that we use with our self and others the shift from the words, 'I' to 'a part of me' can make such a difference.
For example: I am not worth anything after telling that lie to my parents. Well that is not true. Sure it was not a good idea to tell a lie but there are lots of parts of you that want to tell the truth. When we say the part of myself that told a lie is not worth anything, then we have other parts of self that can jump in and do some loving on the part of self than needs that support. In someways that is why a team work, works. We experience parts of self working as a whole.
What does 'all the parts of me' mean?
Do you ever feel like your 16 years old?
Today I have a women in my life that I have kissed. It used to be a want. I kept looking for a moment, an excuse to kiss her.
The whole time I was waiting, I felt like I was 16 years old. That is a part of me. I am kind of a slow mover but before she went home I gave her a kiss.
The moment I kissed her I really felt being all of 16. Then 16 year old, then felt 21 year old and then present time man (all the parts of me) came together for that first good night kiss.
Each part of us is just alive as it was when we were that age. Time is an illusion not the experience of being a child. Be all you can be by staying out of 'I' zone when things are not working. It is only a part that is not working... Then there is all that is working. Sometimes even that is hard to see but soon when you move from I to parts of me you will see how big you really are as a human being.
Thanks, Gary
Remember the Macro holds the Micro.
Karen said,"I don’t get it. I just don’t understand."
'I' …Karen is where you have to began to change. Moving out of this limiting perspective. Sure you can get it ! Parts of your self don’t get it but they will come along.
All you need is to get one part and then the next part will come together then the next. That is why in our language that we use with our self and others the shift from the words, 'I' to 'a part of me' can make such a difference.
For example: I am not worth anything after telling that lie to my parents. Well that is not true. Sure it was not a good idea to tell a lie but there are lots of parts of you that want to tell the truth. When we say the part of myself that told a lie is not worth anything, then we have other parts of self that can jump in and do some loving on the part of self than needs that support. In someways that is why a team work, works. We experience parts of self working as a whole.
What does 'all the parts of me' mean?
Do you ever feel like your 16 years old?
Today I have a women in my life that I have kissed. It used to be a want. I kept looking for a moment, an excuse to kiss her.
The whole time I was waiting, I felt like I was 16 years old. That is a part of me. I am kind of a slow mover but before she went home I gave her a kiss.
The moment I kissed her I really felt being all of 16. Then 16 year old, then felt 21 year old and then present time man (all the parts of me) came together for that first good night kiss.
Each part of us is just alive as it was when we were that age. Time is an illusion not the experience of being a child. Be all you can be by staying out of 'I' zone when things are not working. It is only a part that is not working... Then there is all that is working. Sometimes even that is hard to see but soon when you move from I to parts of me you will see how big you really are as a human being.
Thanks, Gary
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Start By Believing
This morning Karen was feeling like Denise was not there for her. She was feeling non-supported. It was funny to watch how she wanted to make her best friend sound like she was no good, not capable and full of it.
I think that Denise drank this weekend. Karen said. I thought she had a drink as well, I said, but Denise told me that she did not drink. So, I am going to believe her.
It is my job to believe her Karen. The same way I will believe in you. There is a feeling that another person gets when they are believed in. It really does not matter if they are believable or not. My job is to create that feeling and then a value for being believable is formed. You have to start somewhere. My Mom told white stories, her version of an OK lie. I grew up with and had to learn how to be honest as a deeper level. The people that believed in me believed in me because they choose to, not because they had reason to. When ever I can at least for a while I choose to believe. The lie will always come out in the end if you just hang in there.
We made a trip to star bucks to get a green tea and a chi latte. While still in the car Karen started to talk about Denise,"she will never get my boyfriend to believe in her and all her great ideas. My dad is not going to believe in her as well. Denise has to prove her self. She told me she would do all this stuff and she did nothing. I new she would never change."
Karen we have to see Denise in the highest light that we can. We have to belief in her like we want people to believe in us. It is the work of Jesus; do on to your brothers like you want done on to you. He was not just talking about sharing apples. It is every aspect of life, emotional, mental and material. Most people think that Jesus wanted us to do these things first for our brothers. He new of the root of consciousness existed within and a way to that root was to act out what is wanted for your own good by given to others. So the act of believing is not so important for Denise it is important for you, Karen. By you acting "Believing" you are creating a life that you and others will believe in you.
Look at it this way there is nobody out there just a mirror reflecting back to you who you are. If you take this point then how you see them is how you will become and more. See Denise as believable, coach her from the side lines, help her get to the truth when ever you can.
What you say about Denise is how you feel about your self. Breaking the pattern starts with you. Increase the love for others and you increase the love for yourself. It really is that simple! You have to do it in order for it to work.
Karen says, I know, I know. That is right you know but what are you doing? The doing is more important then the knowing. Put it into action.
Read this over! Come back and re-read it. Then every time you find your self not loving somebody or not loving yourself 'Start By Believing'; BELIEVE. Read it until it has sunken into the fibers of your being. Act it until it is the only way you know how to respond.
Thank you for reading, Gary
I think that Denise drank this weekend. Karen said. I thought she had a drink as well, I said, but Denise told me that she did not drink. So, I am going to believe her.
It is my job to believe her Karen. The same way I will believe in you. There is a feeling that another person gets when they are believed in. It really does not matter if they are believable or not. My job is to create that feeling and then a value for being believable is formed. You have to start somewhere. My Mom told white stories, her version of an OK lie. I grew up with and had to learn how to be honest as a deeper level. The people that believed in me believed in me because they choose to, not because they had reason to. When ever I can at least for a while I choose to believe. The lie will always come out in the end if you just hang in there.
We made a trip to star bucks to get a green tea and a chi latte. While still in the car Karen started to talk about Denise,"she will never get my boyfriend to believe in her and all her great ideas. My dad is not going to believe in her as well. Denise has to prove her self. She told me she would do all this stuff and she did nothing. I new she would never change."
Karen we have to see Denise in the highest light that we can. We have to belief in her like we want people to believe in us. It is the work of Jesus; do on to your brothers like you want done on to you. He was not just talking about sharing apples. It is every aspect of life, emotional, mental and material. Most people think that Jesus wanted us to do these things first for our brothers. He new of the root of consciousness existed within and a way to that root was to act out what is wanted for your own good by given to others. So the act of believing is not so important for Denise it is important for you, Karen. By you acting "Believing" you are creating a life that you and others will believe in you.
Look at it this way there is nobody out there just a mirror reflecting back to you who you are. If you take this point then how you see them is how you will become and more. See Denise as believable, coach her from the side lines, help her get to the truth when ever you can.
What you say about Denise is how you feel about your self. Breaking the pattern starts with you. Increase the love for others and you increase the love for yourself. It really is that simple! You have to do it in order for it to work.
Karen says, I know, I know. That is right you know but what are you doing? The doing is more important then the knowing. Put it into action.
Read this over! Come back and re-read it. Then every time you find your self not loving somebody or not loving yourself 'Start By Believing'; BELIEVE. Read it until it has sunken into the fibers of your being. Act it until it is the only way you know how to respond.
Thank you for reading, Gary
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Teach the Stop
Most rehab centers (not mentioning any names) are focused on removing the addictive substance. This does not give the person the internal tools needed to permanently give up the addiction. There is a better way. There is a way to shift from stopping people to teaching people how to stop.
Notice the key word here is stop ! I did not say addiction, or sex or dysfunction.
I said " Stop"
When you teach a person to stop then there is a whole tool that has been developed. They can apply that to the software labeled Addiction. A activity that has no stop to it. Cowboyyoga is teaching real tools. Like get to your pelvic floor and feel the strength as you move energy through and all the way to the feet. This is a real experience, a tool that you can reuse over and over when you need to stop. You can stop a running horse, a wild cow, and a frightened mind desperately looking for help.
When you do not teach a person when to stop, you have to use agreements ; you are not allowed to do this while you are here or otherwise we will give you a spanking.
Yea right that one works.
How about a big strong staff that walks around with bats and chains and handcuffs. We are watching you ! Ready to put you back in place if you cross the line.
I like the song better. We will, we will Rock you !
Then there are the other drugs used to stop the addiction issue.
Well, to some degree these methods maybe are OK in certain situations. What about a program where at the end of the month you are offered some blow and can have as many lines to snort? This would be allowed in the presence of peers that have been watching and supporting for 30 days plus.
Why not see test the waters... ? When we build water lines we put water in them before we cover them up, Right? I know it sounds ridicules... Want to hear something ridicules, Ann's parents have spent over 450,000.00 dollars on rehab centers and she is still relapsing. Now that is ridicules. Maybe learning to ride a horse would be a step in the right direction.. LOL
There is a reason why they don't do this. I am telling you folks when the 30 days are all over if there are no tool, how can we even expect them to stop. Even with tools it is not an easy path to walk. It is all about the feet, the ground.
Gary
Notice the key word here is stop ! I did not say addiction, or sex or dysfunction.
I said " Stop"
When you teach a person to stop then there is a whole tool that has been developed. They can apply that to the software labeled Addiction. A activity that has no stop to it. Cowboyyoga is teaching real tools. Like get to your pelvic floor and feel the strength as you move energy through and all the way to the feet. This is a real experience, a tool that you can reuse over and over when you need to stop. You can stop a running horse, a wild cow, and a frightened mind desperately looking for help.
When you do not teach a person when to stop, you have to use agreements ; you are not allowed to do this while you are here or otherwise we will give you a spanking.
Yea right that one works.
How about a big strong staff that walks around with bats and chains and handcuffs. We are watching you ! Ready to put you back in place if you cross the line.
I like the song better. We will, we will Rock you !
Then there are the other drugs used to stop the addiction issue.
Well, to some degree these methods maybe are OK in certain situations. What about a program where at the end of the month you are offered some blow and can have as many lines to snort? This would be allowed in the presence of peers that have been watching and supporting for 30 days plus.
Why not see test the waters... ? When we build water lines we put water in them before we cover them up, Right? I know it sounds ridicules... Want to hear something ridicules, Ann's parents have spent over 450,000.00 dollars on rehab centers and she is still relapsing. Now that is ridicules. Maybe learning to ride a horse would be a step in the right direction.. LOL
There is a reason why they don't do this. I am telling you folks when the 30 days are all over if there are no tool, how can we even expect them to stop. Even with tools it is not an easy path to walk. It is all about the feet, the ground.
Gary
Saturday, October 18, 2008
IN YOUR HEAD
In Your Head !
When most people get to the place where they need to stop not necessary do they know how. That is what addiction is! It has nothing to do with what is going on outside of self. They are stuck in their heads spinning. What does this mean?
Thinking is thought from the head and not knowing how to do any more then have more thoughts will get you stuck.
You will never stop a horse when your in your head. Neither will you ever be able to stop the mind from going on and on from the head either. It is just like a horse within us. Most people thing they have to stop a horse by pulling on reins. Not much different then most people think they should be able to stop by thinking!
Stopping has nothing to very little to do with the head. It is all in your seat. It just does not happen in the head. Stop happens in the seat of your wranglers. Now if you don't have some get online and go to www.wrangler and find your nearest retailer. LOL Wranglers are a must to do some serious stopping. Something about a pair of wranglers can help you get a really good Whoa!
You can not stop a horse or any other animal from your head without using physical restraining applications.
When predominantly thinking about your own thoughts and not knowing how to escape them nor do anything but be with thoughts you are going to be stuck in the head. Visualize a truck stuck in the mud that is what it is like to be stuck in the head.
Your sitting there spinning the tires.
Get out of your head and feel what it is like to be at the bottom of your pelvic floor. Just starting to spend time there is a way to shift being stuck. The pelvic floor, the legs and your root system are where the stop happen.
When you can have the same kind of energy in your feet as a baseball player sliding in for a home run you will be able to stop what ever and when ever,including a horse. This is what the horses give us; a test; do we have it or not? If that horse will stop for you without picking up the reins, your root system is working for you.
When most people get to the place where they need to stop not necessary do they know how. That is what addiction is! It has nothing to do with what is going on outside of self. They are stuck in their heads spinning. What does this mean?
Thinking is thought from the head and not knowing how to do any more then have more thoughts will get you stuck.
You will never stop a horse when your in your head. Neither will you ever be able to stop the mind from going on and on from the head either. It is just like a horse within us. Most people thing they have to stop a horse by pulling on reins. Not much different then most people think they should be able to stop by thinking!
Stopping has nothing to very little to do with the head. It is all in your seat. It just does not happen in the head. Stop happens in the seat of your wranglers. Now if you don't have some get online and go to www.wrangler and find your nearest retailer. LOL Wranglers are a must to do some serious stopping. Something about a pair of wranglers can help you get a really good Whoa!
You can not stop a horse or any other animal from your head without using physical restraining applications.
When predominantly thinking about your own thoughts and not knowing how to escape them nor do anything but be with thoughts you are going to be stuck in the head. Visualize a truck stuck in the mud that is what it is like to be stuck in the head.
Your sitting there spinning the tires.
Get out of your head and feel what it is like to be at the bottom of your pelvic floor. Just starting to spend time there is a way to shift being stuck. The pelvic floor, the legs and your root system are where the stop happen.
When you can have the same kind of energy in your feet as a baseball player sliding in for a home run you will be able to stop what ever and when ever,including a horse. This is what the horses give us; a test; do we have it or not? If that horse will stop for you without picking up the reins, your root system is working for you.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
God, Sacredness and Commitment
Sept 27
Karen, and I sit down this morning and we start talking about how wonderful it is to have somebody. She said that she told Tom about them not having sex when he comes to Austin. He said, that he kind of understood because in AA they talk about not getting involved in a sexual relationship when you’re recovering.
He is on the right path of thinking. The issue is that when you have sex you are creating bonding that is very powerful. Inside that bonding and intimacy comes neediness. That is usually why we see people involved in addictions, they can not get their neediness to stop. It is like a child calling "mama, mama." So when that moment of unsureness comes up in the new sexual partnership also comes the discomfort associated with the question "who is going to take care of me."
“ THE HOW TO RECOVER TOOLS” are little details that keep you from fall back into addiction. Lets review a few of them. The where am I question? This helps you stop and take inventory of your awareness of your body and note where are you in the body. My head?. Check your ground? This will help you know if you are or not. If not get grounded! Of course there are more and more details... These tools reduce the neediness by just simply acknowledging I am needy and I feel the neediness. They also shift the system so it feels safe again.
Once you have these tools, knowing how to take care of the neediness keeps you on your feet. (Maybe the feet are more important then we think.)
Sex is so, powerful. It is powerful due to its sacredness. When two people make love to each other they are joined with their hearts, tummies and at a deep level of family survival. The need to procreate and keep the genetic pool alive is fulfilled when having sex. Also is the interest to create deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Understanding this helps us take care of the body like an instrument so that it does not get used in a way that could create dysfunction (addiction) . Even when we do know this we will want to still have sex. The sex is grounding and that causes relief and comfort but only temporally if the commitment and spiritual aspect are not set in place.
Thank you for reading , Gary
Karen, and I sit down this morning and we start talking about how wonderful it is to have somebody. She said that she told Tom about them not having sex when he comes to Austin. He said, that he kind of understood because in AA they talk about not getting involved in a sexual relationship when you’re recovering.
He is on the right path of thinking. The issue is that when you have sex you are creating bonding that is very powerful. Inside that bonding and intimacy comes neediness. That is usually why we see people involved in addictions, they can not get their neediness to stop. It is like a child calling "mama, mama." So when that moment of unsureness comes up in the new sexual partnership also comes the discomfort associated with the question "who is going to take care of me."
“ THE HOW TO RECOVER TOOLS” are little details that keep you from fall back into addiction. Lets review a few of them. The where am I question? This helps you stop and take inventory of your awareness of your body and note where are you in the body. My head?. Check your ground? This will help you know if you are or not. If not get grounded! Of course there are more and more details... These tools reduce the neediness by just simply acknowledging I am needy and I feel the neediness. They also shift the system so it feels safe again.
Once you have these tools, knowing how to take care of the neediness keeps you on your feet. (Maybe the feet are more important then we think.)
Sex is so, powerful. It is powerful due to its sacredness. When two people make love to each other they are joined with their hearts, tummies and at a deep level of family survival. The need to procreate and keep the genetic pool alive is fulfilled when having sex. Also is the interest to create deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Understanding this helps us take care of the body like an instrument so that it does not get used in a way that could create dysfunction (addiction) . Even when we do know this we will want to still have sex. The sex is grounding and that causes relief and comfort but only temporally if the commitment and spiritual aspect are not set in place.
Thank you for reading , Gary
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